Resisting the urge to say STFU
On most technical forums, and even when IRC is not being technical, I tend to hold off on volunteering opinions because I don’t want to seem, I suppose, arrogant, and because someone else probably knows better what they’re talking about. (Of course, sometimes they don’t, and I get mad, but I try not to e.g. splatter it all over Planet.)
I’ve kind of kept at this thing (9 years and counting...) despite that making me feel like I do not even remotely fit in. School is a similar environment it this country. I never spoke up in class, but at least I had the privilege to do so without someone saying “oh, what could they possibly know, they’re a girl.” But that attitude’s still around, and our term papers aren’t still going to be due if we wasted all our time being loud obnoxious pricks. The smaller the stakes, the more energy you can waste picking on people who are different.
Perhaps we don’t do this because we’re sexist; perhaps we’re sexist because we do this.
